What should I do in a minute, my fiancee is an amputee?
I've been with this man for 3 1/2 years. We had some great times together, but we also have not too good times. There was a lot of disloyalty on his part, but I stuck in there because I love him. I other want us to get married but he wasnt ready yet. He lately was in a motorcycle accident and the result he lost his lower leg. Prior to him finding out he be going to lose his leg but while in the hospital he asked me to marry him. I said yes. What are your thoughts? Any suggestion or inspiration?
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You shouldn't care if he's an amputee or not if you love him.
So what has changed? He might enjoy now. Find out again for some guys don't feel a man anymore(because all they have was their brawn). Mentally they were not smart. Is this the same guy, or does not have the leg not phase him? Sure he can't do certain jobs(such as 100M sprints, or football receiver, or on the frontlines in time of war manouvers...but maybe he is a geek. I do not know him, you do.
He is coming around to the fact that he is not invincible. See where his headspace is at and what are his plans in a minute. Not a demand, as of course he is thinking about it too. Can he fine-tuning, has he given himself options, is he willing to retrain.or is he going to drink his go away.
The last option is a hopeless case - stride away from those types.
DO YOU STILL LOVE HIM? That's what you want to ask yourself.If you really loved him , that leg wouldn't make a bit of difference. So do you or not?
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The amputation is the least of your worries. if he's below the knee he'll bounce rear even faster.
The only thing you two need to work out is any issues that may still waste time around the unfaithfulness. If both of you are ready to move on together and really want to be married and organized to take on that responsibility that's fine.
often times after a serious accident folks re-prioritize their lives. Although if you're not ready to be married tell him you want to wait.
i'm an above knees amputee my fiance isn't. My amputation was long before we started going out. Sometimes I need to remind him that I can't other move as fast as he might like when my leg is hurting. on occasion at hand will be something wrong with my prosthetic and I won't be able to use it. If it's a temporary piece it means we're getting take out or he's cooking. If it's going to last a few days he know he has to help me in the kitchen more and around the house more. It's not similar to you have to spoon feed your partner. Just carry hot or breakable items that can't smoothly be moved when he's using crutches.
I had surgery on my remaining foot not long back. My fiance helped me out like mad. Thankfully I could move a little but he was an angel when it came to getting meal ready and carrying and moving things for me.
He doesn't take care of me . We give somebody a lift care of each other when I'm home ( I'm away for work right now) I do my share of the housework just close to he does. It's only when I have to go short my prosthetic leg or my prosthetic leg stops working do I need extra help from him.
That's not a lot of info and I don't know how he is dealing with his situation so adjectives I can say is follow your heart, do it for love not pity (or guilt). :)
If you love him and you trust him now, honor your commitment! Who cares about his leg? If you guardianship that much about it, then you are either marry him out of guilt or you are being selfish. He may even be a better partner because of his injury.
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