HELP ME!!...
Well, I have these two friends-Shana and Hayden(not real names), and they own been fighting. See, they are contained by High School-Hayden a Senior, Shana a Junior-and well they used to go out, but afterwards they broke up, and it was a big, dramatic thing, but they be still friends. Then, she started going out with this guy Ken (not real name), and I guess Hayden newly got really mad. So, yesterday we in recent times got back from church military camp in Florida, and they were aggression all week. We got on the bus, and Shana be way in the put money on, and Hayden sat behind me, and he said that he solitary hated two people on the bus, and one of them be Shana. That made me really sad. Then, we got to military camp, and she started telling me all these things that he have said to her, like when she started talking to him at the coast, he said DON'T TALK TO ME and then she said that she just needed him to be her friend, and he said MAKE NEW FRIENDS. She cried for a long time after that. But, she put on her happy face, so he diddn't know how bleak she felt. She kept coming back to me adjectives week with things, and I kept just describing her I was praying for her-which I was. I be asking God to help their relationship and to mend their hearts-His, which was broken by their break-up and afterwards hardened out of spite- and Hers, which was broken by his spite, and hardened by the spite as well. So, she come up to me and said that he told her that he wasn't trying to be a *** he was just kinda batty. And that he wanted to be her friend. But, then, he still said things that provoked her-which this is where on earth I thought she was wrong, things were provoking her method too easily- and things were akward between them. So, I slipped him a note that said something resembling I'M NOT GOING TO TRY AND INTERFERE, I JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW I'M GLAD YOU AND SHANA ARE WORKING THINGS OUT. I then left it alone. But consequently, on the bus, Shana sat in a form near me, and I was alone, but afterwards Hayden came on and had nowhere to sit, so I invited him to sit by me minus even thinking about Shana's feelings. (great friend, aren't I?) Well, she started discussion about him to me, in a subdued voice, and then, I heard from at the back me IF YOU'RE GONNA TALK ABOUT ME, AT LEAST DO IT WHERE I CAN'T HEAR YOU. Well, I got a sick feeling right more or less then, wondering if I'd said something that could damage our friendship. I froze. I couldn't even breathe, none the smaller amount turn around. But then Shana and Hayden started arguing literally putting me right in the middle. Hayden started cussing Shana out (he'd be trying to stop cursing so much, ever since he'd been coming to youth group, but that plan apparently blew), and saying things close to I DIDN'T WANT TO HAVE THIS OUT IN PUBLIC BECAUSE IT WOULD BE AKWARD, BUT IF THAT'S WHAT YOU WANT, LET'S HAVE IT. And then I started to cry. Neither of them noticed. I dried my eyes and looked at Shana, who be still trying to talk to me about it and I told her I'M NOT TRYING TO BE RUDE, BUT CAN WE PLEASE NOT TALK ABOUT THIS?!! She saw the tears that be reapearing to my eyes and said SURE. So, I turn back sittitng forwards in my form, just looking striaght ahead at one of the TV's in front of me (we be on a charter bus, with TV's that had movies ultimately 16 hour drive), when I felt Hayden tap me on the leg and asked if I be ok. I shook my head no. He said SORRY and asked why not. I said BEACUSE I LOVE YOU BOTH AND YOU GUYS ARE MAKING IT HARD FOR ME TO LOVE EITHER OF YOU! There came those stupid tears again. I wipe them, and ignored him until we got home. I excepted his apology when we get there, but things are still weird-most likely due to the reality that I'ma fairly calm individual and that outburst of mine freaked them both out, and I don't know what my question is, just wanting input. And please, not curse words. I don't entail any more of those. Thanks in advance for your input. I hope you guys can minister to me. (AND YES, I KNOW THAT THIS IS IN THE WRONG CATAGORY, BUT NO ONE ANSWERED ME THERE, SO I THOUGHT I'D COME HERE...HELP?!)
Answer: ok phew..where do i start...first i want to say that you seem to be like a very compassionate nice and empathy person who is sensitive...these are all fine intrinsic worth however sometimes in life some populace see that and use it to their advantage...you're all childish and this type of thing may happen again..you basically have to stand your ground when people try to put you contained by the middle..don't do it...you were smart to say that you weren't their adjudicator...don't be...they need to accept the reality that they have broken up and life go on..thats why its called dating..you date til you find the one you want to be with forever...lamentably friends come and go and once you're done with dignified school and step out into the real world...you may not be friends beside them any longer..so worry about yourself.you nouns real smart and mature though..convey them like you did that you care amazingly much for both of them but you will not be their "sandwich"!...they need to stay away from each other for awhile...its too tough to break up and afterwards try to be friends.thats all right for people who divorce and try to be friends for their kids.but person so young its too soon ...too raw to try and stay friends right away...sometimes you enjoy to let old wounds treat for awhile,,..soon enough they will both have different date and try not to hurt each other once they can move on...but surrounded by the meantime explain that THEY broke up but you didn't with them and tell them not to breed you the person in between...resembling to deliver messages or complain constantly about the other...tell them your friendships next to them were not about that...that you hold other things to discuss...and if they don't stop..then you need to clutch a little break from them too.do not get surrounded by the middle...but you told the all the right stuff...now final up your words with action...and if you used to other go out together well presently you'll just have to alternate.sounds close to a lot of work...good luck.
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